“I love to see old women. I love wrinkles. I love gray hair.”—Alber Elbaz (Israeli fashion designer)

Seven-year-old Erica jumped, skipped, twirled, and laughed as she stormed into her grandmother’s house.

She had just returned from Disneyland with her mom, dad, and other grandparents, grandad Bill, and grandma Alice.

“Did you have a good time?” her grandmother asked.

“Yes!” exclaimed Erica.

“What did you ride?” her grandmother wanted to know.

“We rode Space Mountain, Mad Tea Party, California Screamin’ and a bunch of other things! But grandma Alice didn’t ride anything,” said Erica.

“Well, why not?” asked her grandmother.

“Because grandma Alice has gray hair!” squealed Erica.

Yes, Erica thought gray hair was the reason her grandma Alice didn’t enjoy the rides at Disneyland.

What does this funny (and real) little story say about senior women?

In the mind of this young child, at least, gray hair is viewed as a sign of aging—grandma Alice was too old and frail and couldn’t keep up, which could not be further from the truth.

Erica’s grandma Alice was only 53 years old and a very active business owner who happened not to enjoy carnivals and amusement parks.

So should grandma Alice dye her hair?

After all, as noted in one reference work, “In every age and culture, hair expresses some part of the person beneath it.”

What do you want your hair to say about you?

I believe the central message one should want their hair to convey is health and attractiveness. You want to appear vibrant. 

Why does hair turn gray?

Graying doesn’t mean the hair dies. The visible portion of all hair is already dead.

Each hair on our head extends below the skin surface, and the end of that hair, which is the only living part, is called the “bulb’—that bulb functions as the hair factory.

Rapid division of cells in the bulb forms the hair, which absorbs melanin that is produced by pigment cells.

The reason hair turns gray is that the pigment cells that make melanin, a chemical that gives your hair its color, stop generating melanin, and no one knows why. But without pigment, new strands grow in lighter and take on various shades of gray, silver, and eventually white.

Scientists believe that your genes dictate how early this happens.

I knew a man, for instance, who had utterly white hair—prematurely—in his twenties!

Thus, it appears to be beyond our power to prevent graying. This fact doesn’t deter people from trying.

For instance, there are some treatments, such as melanin injection. And of course, many dyes their hair—a practice that dates back to the ancient Greeks and Romans. The ancient Egyptians used the blood of bulls to color their hair.

Health Indicator

Hair can indicate the condition of your health.


Hair is one of the fastest growing tissues in the body, and any abnormalities in the chemistry of your body will show up in the growth structure of your hair.

Some doctors are even beginning to think that it is possible to diagnose a person’s illness by examining a strand of hair.

For instance, in infants, doctors can use blood tests and microscopic examination of the hair to diagnose Menkes Disease (Syndrome).

And you’re probably aware of how hair analyses can determine your drug use and your unique genetic code or DNA, which help the police to solve crimes.

Yes, hair analysis can be a useful tool.

Emotional stress can also affect hair. Extreme nervousness appears to disrupt the proper flow of nutrients to the scalp, thus causing hair problems.

Diet can also affect your hair. A balanced diet that includes vegetables, fruits, and not too many starches and sugars contributes to a healthy body, and in turn, healthy hair.

Consider these healthy tips:

  • Omega-3 fatty acids found in fish, salmon, sardines, and mackerel: help to protect you from disease and gives you what your body needs to grow hair and keep it shiny and full.
  • Greek yogurt: has the vitamin B5 that helps blood flow to your scalp and hair growth.
  • Leafy vegetables: spinach has vitamin A, plus iron, beta carotene, folate, and vitamin C that work for a healthy scalp and keeps your hair moisturized, so it doesn’t break.
  • Tropical fruits: such as guava that has lots of vitamin C that protect your hair from breaking.

More best foods for healthy hair:

In addition to the tips listed above, here’s an additional list of the best foods for healthy hair as reported in an article by Angela Haupt, www.health.usnews.com

  • Lean red meat (iron-rich; may help to regrow hair)
  • Eggs (contains biotin, a B vitamin that promotes hair growth and overall scalp health)
  • Bananas, beer, oats, and raisins (contain mineral silica to improve hair thickness)
  • Sweet potatoes (packed with beta-carotene, which your body converts to vitamin A that nourishes your hair and skin, and protects against dull hair and dry skin)
  • Beans (legumes like kidney, lentils, are iron-rich and play a role in hair maintenance and support)
  • Oysters, crab, clams (zinc-rich choices to keep hair shiny and healthy)
  • Vegetable oil (healthy oils like olive, peanut, safflower, sunflower; about a teaspoon a day can restore shine)

To dye or not to dye gray hair:

“Beauty is about perception, not about make-up. I think the beginning of all beauty is knowing and liking oneself. You can’t put on make-up or dress yourself, or do your hair with any sort of fun or joy if you’re doing it from a position of correction.” – Kevyn Aucoin

Not all women want to hide or cover their gray mane. Comments I’ve read recently on the Web about this topic, include:

“My gray hair is a testament to my self-love and a celebration of getting older.”

“I find it freeing to stop coloring my hair.”

“I am embracing and love the color gray.”

Some women believe gray hair makes them look glamorous and visit salons to enhance their gray.

Did you see the movie The Devil Wears Prada? Meryl Streep played a silver-haired woman who projected power and confidence! These are qualities we would think of which gray hair robs us.

Many women wanted Streep’s look and visited salons to add strategically placed silver and platinum strands placed throughout their hair.

But there are, of course, many other women who believe gray hair ages them and fight this natural progression tooth and nail.

They feel uneasy about graying.

For instance, Diane shared with a friend:

“I got a haircut so I could see more of my natural color, which is gray and brown with red highlights. I liked the gray, but there wasn’t enough of it. It made me look older, and I don’t need any help with that!”

But attitudes are changing:

According to the social media platform, Pinterest, searches of the term “going gray” have increased more than 879% in recent months.

Many middle-aged women in 2019 no longer want to be stuck in the endless six-week cycle of “hiding new growth” and coloring their hair.

Pinterest predicts that women will stop fighting the natural aging process of going gray and proudly let their silver strands shine through.

Yes, older women are beginning to embrace their gray hair that shows how they value authenticity and also speaks to their self-confidence: “I am who I am!”

The more mature women accept this beautiful transition, the more empowering for all of us. Gray hair no longer means “getting old.”

When will you ditch the dye? 

Of course, it is a personal decision whether or not to grow gray gracefully. And any suggestion to go gray is a non-starter for many women (and men).

To keep dying one’s hair takes time and effort, and for some, it may cause skin problems or allergic reactions. Even if you decide to dye your graying hair, there may be a time when you will want to stop.

Hairstyling is a form of self-expression. Hair has been cut, extended, straightened, curled, colored, and variously styled to meet fashion trends, and even social and political agendas.

So what does your hair reveal about you?

If or when you decide to give up the dye, I can assure you that gray hair can look elegant and give you dignity that you never had before.

Because . . .

“Gray-headedness is a crown of beauty!”


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